When people separate or divorce it may feel as if the world is coming to an end. You enter a deep depression and all you can think about is, “How could this happen to me. I did everything possible to save this relationship.”
You might feel alone, but you aren’t. Thousands of women around the world have gone through a divorce. And it doesn’t mean that your life is over, or that you will be lonely for the rest of your life. There are thousands of empowered women who enjoy and even choose to live the single life. It just takes making a change, and usually, life changes can be a good thing. Knowing you aren’t alone in this life event can help, and following a guide or taking a few steps to alleviate the pain can map your way out of one of the most stressful events that can happen in a person’s life.
Get Involved in Life
To eliminate the emotional upheaval you’ll need to learn to be social again. Researchers have found this to be the most effective way of coping with a divorce. A few simple ways of doing this is by joining a fun class; taking a dance class, going to the gym, or joining a book club.
Give Yourself Some TLC
A divorce or separation is tiring; it takes a lot out of you, so you want to be sure to take care of your body. Eat right, get enough exercise and sleep. Remember exercise and good nutrition also helps reduce stress. Just create new routines that give you a sense of stability and consistency.
Consider getting therapy but be sure to visit the right kind of therapist. To get the most out of it, follow the guidelines and do the work.
Get In Touch With Your Spirit
Find balance in your life by taking up meditation. This helps you get in touch with your core self and helps reduce the stress and the negativity in your life. Practice meditation through prayer, yoga, or any other special meditative technique.
Pay Attention to Your Finances
A divorce brings both emotional and financial upheaval. For this reason you need to create a budget for yourself. Stick to it, and keep from using those credit cards. Stay on top of your finances and make sure you keep track of your credit score, debt, bank financial activity and assets. If you can afford the help of a financial planner get it, otherwise you can get some great financial planning tips online or from books.
Just Take it a Step at a Time
Sometimes when you look at the whole problem it can seem overwhelming, even impossible to overcome, but when you take one day at a time, one week at a time and one process at a time, then you can make better decisions about the task at hand.
Harriet Nilsson lives in Marbella, Spain. She is the author of the book My Road to Me: A Journey of Love, Truth and the Courage to Grow. For more info: http://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Road-Me-Harriet-Nilsson/dp/0957159684/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1407874170&sr=1-1-fkmr0&keywords=my+road+to+me+harriet+nielson